Friday, January 14, 2011

Getting to know you

Hey, it's National Delurking Day!

This is a day for all you people who read but never comment to introduce yourselves. I know there are several of you. I'm really happy that you read my blog, but I'd be even happier if I knew you.

If you want, you can tell me (and the rest of the readers) who you are, where you're from, how you started reading this blog, what you like about it, and/or stuff like that. Or just say "Hi." I'd love to hear from you.

(h/t: Oakmonster)

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  1. "national delurking day"

    how cute.

  2. Hey, you're not even a lurker. ;)

  3. Hi! I'm here. Thanks for participating. Don't forget to go tell Rude Cactus you're doing it so he can credit you properly. :)

  4. Hey! Not always just a lurker, but I don't think I've said anything more than how your post about Star Wars apologetics cracked me up. It tipped me over the edge and into writing my first blog post though.

    I choose to remain anonymous online. Don't really have the courage to tell most of the people I know that I went from a dedicated Christian evvie to an agnostic. So hi, I'm om

  5. Hi Oakley!

    Hi om,
    Cool! I didn't know I had any influence on your decision to blog.
    I was anonymous online for years too. I guess I'm semi-onymous now -- I'm easily traceable anyway. It's helped me make friends, so I think "coming out" was the right choice for me. But everyone's situation is different, of course.

  6. Hi Kuri! It's me - sarah, originally from California but most recently from the SLC. Hard to know if I found your blog via other blogs or MSP...but anyway, I'm a fan of your link posts and witty musings!

  7. Hi Sarah! Glad to have you as a reader!

  8. Hey, Kuri, I'm lurking. Well, not at this moment I'm not.

    Actually, I've been catching up on what I've missed. Last time I spoke to you you were a believer, to some extent anyway. It's good to be reading your blog again. And I'm glad to see that you haven't lost your, sometimes strange, sense of humour.

    The Curmudgeon.

  9. Hello

    I found your blog via MSP. I post there (rarely) as 'barmy stoat.'

    I live in BC, Canada.

    I liked your 30 days/30 meals series. :D

  10. Hey Tax
    Glad you're back. I only "came out" as an atheist -- admitted it to myself, really -- about a year ago.

    Hi barmy,
    Thanks for reading. Love your handle, BTW.

  11. Yeah, I'm glad also. I've missed it.

    I stepped away from everything Mormon 'cos I was becoming utterly bored with it. Not only had it engulfed me at church, it had also surrounded me, mentally, when I had left the Church and dealing with the aftermath of my cognitive dissonance. So I've not read anything remotely Mormon for nearly 3 years now. (I just had to check my last posting on The Mutt's Nuts - I had no idea it had been that long!)

    I think that Atheism is the only logical conclusion after Mormonism. I initially attempted to toy around with other 'things' that would enable me to keep hold of my security blanket, but self-honesty got the better of me. And I'm not deliberately trying to be divisive here, just saying that after Mormonism my mind went into free fall and hitting the ground of reality hurt. I'm so, so happy that I got out though.

    So, Kuri, what was the catalyst that made you decide to leave. I've gone back through your blog looking for the answer but I couldn't find it. And if it's too personal to share, that's fine.


  12. I'm not good at sharing my thinking while I'm deciding something. I tend to brood about things for a long time without talking to anybody and then sudenly come to a decision. So that's pretty much reflected in my blog.

    To my blog readers, I guess I was a TBM (of sorts), then I was silent about the church while I was processing my new thinking, and then all of a sudden I was like, "Oh hi, I'm an atheist now." You're not the first person to say they don't understand how/why I changed.

    I intend someday to write my complete exit story -- probably in multiple parts -- but the short answer is something I wrote in a comment on another blog once:

    As for what finally did it for me, it was Prop 8 [the anti - gay marriage vote in California], but only indirectly. A devout friend offered up a quote from 1970 because he thought it was "prophetic," but I thought it was something any conservative white American might have said in 1970.

    Then I asked my self the "fatal" question: Have "the Brethren" ever said anything that any other conservative white American wouldn't say, something that only God could inspire someone to say? And the answer, of course, was "No."

    And that's what got me to finally ask "What if?" What if my "spiritual experiences" were all in my head? What if none of it is true? What if there is no god? What would the world look like?

    And the answer was, it would look exactly like it does. No gods needed.

  13. I never thought of you as a TBM, as you just didn't fit that mould in my eyes. I remember saying to Isla that if anybody left the Church, out of all of the people that we'd spoken to on the 'net, then it would probably be you. So I won't say I wasn't delighted to read the news when I found your blog again.

    As for Prop 8, I imagine that it caused a lot of members to re-evaluate their church membership. Some leaving, like yourself, and other staying after arriving at some point of justification in their minds that meant that not leaving was still a viable option. And, of course, there are probably others that felt that they couldn't leave for a variety of reasons.

    I still intend to write my exit story, but I've tried so many times before, finding it to be a very difficult thing to do. I get caught up on points and go off on tangents. I'm not good at staying on course.

    And yeah, such a question and accompanying answer is like a snow ball, gaining speed down a sharp incline. There's just no turning back once you accept defeat on a crucial point.


  14. I did say "of sorts." So maybe if I wasn't a TBM I was a BM? No wait -- that's probably not the expression I was looking for.

    But yeah, I was half an atheist for a long time. Intellectually, I knew that was by far the better case. It was just my "spiritual experiences" that kept me a believer. But when I decided to reexamine those, when I re-weighted the equation so to speak, I got a far different answer.


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